We asked a group of guys why they didn’t call a girl after a date. Here’s what they said. Hey, don’t blame us. (And rest assured — later, we punched some of them in the balls.)

“Because I met her at Lit.”

“She was too eager at the end of date one to secure date two.”

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“She was a lawyer who owned her own apartment in the city and never even fake offered to pay for anything.”

“One time I told a girl I’d call her “mid-week” which meant Wednesday. I fully intended on calling back but she bitched to my mutual friend that it was “vague”– not sure what about “mid-week” doesn’t’ mean Wednesday. So, I got spooked that they were talking about me and I didn’t call back.”

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“I stopped calling after some call backs when we keep setting up dates that didn’t happen. After a while I just gave up.”

“She said she had a boyfriend before making out with me on said night.”

“I got happier after she left than I was when she was with me… so that told me something, obviously.”

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“I was drunk the night before, and then I was sober the next day and reality set in.”

“Yes, like all the jerks, I SAID I’d call knowing I wouldn’t just to get some action at the time.”

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“Something didn’t sit right on the date: she said something stupid/awkward, and I just wasn’t feeling it.”

“Sheer Laziness. I just didn’t want to make the effort anymore.”

“She was too eager to impress on date one.”

“I was never really attracted to her. I asked her out when I was drunk, and the next week, even though I was sober and kind of regretting asking her, I felt like I had to follow through. So we went out on a date, which was nice enough. But there were certain qualities about her that more or less determined from the start that I wouldn’t be calling her back. She wasn’t very sexy to me, both in conversation and in appearance. She struck me as a little spacey. She also seemed a bit desperate. And she had some very light peach fuzz on her upper lip. All in all, it was a pleasant meal and a decent way to spend an evening, but I did not follow up with a phone call. I can’t say that there was any particular detail of the date itself that sealed my decision; the reason I didn’t call her back was a combination of my lack of enthusiasm and those things about her that I noticed before and that were confirmed in the date.”